Social media, you are truly the devil’s work.
Please don’t get me wrong, I love Facebook as much as the next girl, I’m an real Instafan and love a good browse on Twitter. But, see here’s the thing, it’s easy to believe the hype.
The hype about everyone’s else’s glamorous lives, the hype about the babies that sleep through the night at just 2 weeks old, the hype about the prodigal toddlers who can count, read, write and tie their own shoes by the age of two, and the hype about the perfect husbands who bring flowers home each week…
No, these people’s lives are not better than yours, they just give good post. Chances are, they are stretching the truth a little or, at the very least, being selective in what they choose to share with the rest of the world.
As parents, they will still have exploding nappies to contend with, epic toddler meltdowns, horrible arguments with their other halves, and days when they want to open the wine at 8am and just keep drinking. Just because you don’t get to read about it, doesn’t mean it’s not happening.
Social media channels provide a pocket-sized periscope into other people’s lives and, whilst it can be immensely comforting to have your friends and family always within arms reach, it can be equally destructive. I have to remind myself on a daily basis to get my head out of my phone, especially in the evening when the children are in bed and I’m grabbing some much needed down time.
Motherhood is hard work at times and motherhood, at least in the early days, can also be very lonely. It’s very easy to get suckered into the myth that everyone else is doing it better than you, winning at this parenting lark, and that social media is your friend, your lifeline, your bridge to sanity. It can just as easily create unrealistic comparisons with the picture perfect lives depicted online.
Those little glimpses of friends out on the town enjoying a life that currently feels like just a distant memory, those perfect children without jam in their hair, mud on their clothes and worms in their hands; those statuses about holidays, romances and adoring husbands who get up through the night for newborn babies, whilst also juggling a full time job. It’s important to remember that they never tell the whole story.
Personally, I much prefer the sardonic parenting stories to the smug ones, those tales of toddler tantrums and excruciating embarrassments, where you can almost hear the end of each status update being punctuated by a deep sigh and a bottle of wine being opened.
The truth is, good or bad, if it’s making headlines on your newsfeed, then chances are it’s quite a rare occurance. Nobody posts the mundane. Social media is there purely for the purpose of entertainment… and, as long as you can take it for what it is, it’s just a bit of harmless fun.